人生

人生就好像迷宫一样，
它会使你找不到你所要的方向感，安全感，成就感，
但一旦你找到了，你会感到前所未有的快乐感；
或许过程中有点辛苦，正所谓先苦后甜，
也许在过程里你会寻找到最真最善美的爱情，友情，亲情；

人生往往都不是你想象中的如意，完美；
假如人生就像你想象中的一样，那么这样的人生也太无趣了？？？
人生的奥妙就在于我们都不能预知或先知；
这样我们才会对人生充满了期待与盼望！
这样的人生也会是一个挑战性的人生！

我们不能对人生充满了绝望，
我们应该把绝望变成希望！

Books

This book we will figure it out communication between men and women. It contains ten chapters which are:
1. Why won't anybody listen to me?
2. It's a Communication Skill
3. It's a Gender Issue
4. It's an Age Issue
5. It's a Power Issue
6. Feel Like an Equal
7. Act Like an Equal
8. Sound Like an Equal
9. Look Likan Equal
10. The Conversational Wardrobe

The Problems and Solutions-Briefly

The major culprits,then,are taking toong to get to the point and using too many details to expand that point.WHat quick solutions exist:

• Put your point first
• Follow with just the essential details,itemized
  

http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Men-Will-Listen/dp/0595175252/ref=sr_1_20?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1235369266&sr=1-20

Introduction

What is a real man?How does he think and act?Today,men are questioning who they are and what they are meant to play in their life.

What should men do?Should they hold on to traditiona roles and ways of thinking,or should they follow the road being pavec by new concepts of maleness?

This book will help you further explore he nature of men in a practal and personal way in regard to your own life,if you are a man,or to help you better understand and relate yo your husband,father,brother,or male friends,if you are a woman.

http://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Purpose-Power-Men-Study/dp/0883688557/ref=sr_1_26?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1235369314&sr=1-26

Communication between men or women

For males, conversation is the way you negotiate your status in the group and keep people from pushing you around; you use talk to preserve your independence. Females, on the other hand, use conversation to negotiate closeness and intimacy; talk is the essence of intimacy, so being best friends means sitting and talking. For boys, activities, doing things together, are central. Just sitting and talking is not an essential part of friendship. They're friends with the boys they do things with.

Women want men to do what we want. We want them to want to do what we want, because that's what we do. If a woman perceives that something she's doing is really hurting a man, she wants to stop doing it. If she perceives that he really wants her to do something, she wants to do it. She thinks that that's love and he should feel the same way about her. But men have a gut-level resistance to doing what they're told, to doing what someone expects them to do. It's the opposite response of what women have." She reminds readers that, of course, there are men who are very helpful toward their women. "But if a man is going to be touchy, it's more likely to go in that direction. Whereas if a woman is insecure, she's more likely to go in the other direction, [and] be super- accommodating.

My First Paper

Finally,I finish my 1st paper...

Two hours are enough for me to answer the all question...

My friends they all say insufficient to write discussion essay...

The essay topic is the advantages and disadvantages of dependent on computers...

For me is quite easy topic,but the find ten errors and correct them is difficult...

So far everything is quite well...

Now I'm repairing for my 2nd paper...

Hope

喜欢这首歌也很喜欢它的歌词，一个有意义的歌词再加上一部好戏（新不了情）！这首歌也不是今天才发现，是我看了那部戏过后就已喜欢了！今天忽然心血来招想要找这首歌的歌词也被我找到了就把它写在这里！

希望
TVB电视剧《新不了情》原声带
作曲：梁翘柏 作词：李绰雄 演唱：薛凯琪

给我最后的微笑 好不好
眼泪也不是解药 你知道
担心你以后 要一个人走
爱变伤口 天长地久
时间有尽头
总能够再回首 变温柔
千言万语难开口
还压在眉头 却要放开手
忘了多余的内疚
别忘了爱过就已足够
没有不了的情缘
总会有人要先走
忘了动摇的时候
别忘了泪水不会白流
没有不了的拥有
确有回味在心头
最终会变醇酒

给我最后的微笑 好不好
眼泪也不是解药 你知道
时间有尽头
总能够再回首 变温柔
千言万语难开口
还压在眉头 却要放开手
忘了多余的内疚
别忘了爱过就已足够
没有不了的情缘
总有人要先走
忘了动摇的时候
别忘了泪水不会白流
没有不了的拥有
确有回味在心头
最终会变醇酒

Advance English

Tomorrow is the first paper of Mid-term which is Advan English...

The paper has four sections and we just have two hours to answer...

We need to answer a discussion essay,reading comprehension,summary,grammar and cloze passage...

We scare don't have enough time,but lecturer already teach us how to manage time during exam...

Now I just can hope that I'll answer well on this paper...

Chili Restaurant

I have my second time dinner at Chili's and with Aram. Actually,today before our class I'm asking Aram whether want to have dinner together after class. Then she say why don't we go to Chili to have dinner and I'll agree too.Last time I had my meal at there was 3rd December 2008.I can remember the date because that day is just finished my final exam and have dinner with Davka and Aram.The most important is after the meal we need to separate for one month because they'll back to their country and I'll back to my hometown.That day we had a nice dinner.



Today after class,Aram and I try to get a cab to Bangsar Shopping Center.Aram get one and we need to across the road and she makes a move first.I follow her and I don't look at the road which have a hole.After that,I fell down because of the hole.Lucky just a little bit injury which is at my knee,but it isn't ruin my mood to have dinner.

Pet Society...

Let say HOORAY !!!

Sleepy now is more and more gorgeous...

I want to give her everyhing in good condition...

I need to earn more money...

Robert, wait my Sleepy already get everything then I'll help your MekMek...

Below is the Pet Society (Facebook) URL :

http://apps.facebook.com/petsociety/?pf_ref=p694867345

It is really a fun flash game...

Enjoy it much...Wooh....

Cancel permission^^

A'mei and Robert,

I cancel my permission because of you two...

Hope you guys will always update your blog too...

Miss you two much...hehe

Fall asleep

really tired now and fall asleep.

still have a lot of things need to study and do.

Who can help me???

Anyway LET CHEER UP !!!

Mid-term...

Mid-term is coming soon again and again.
We all try to do it our best.
We want to get an excellent or a satisfy result.
Just now I have my dinner with Aram, Chris and Garam at Secret Recipe.
We spend half an hour at there. We need to go back to study and do note.
Tomorrow sir will give us the Human Com. self test answer.
Aram and I just realize that Human Com. question is so tough.
We must very understand and clear about the chapter.
We always think that it is difficult to get distinction, but now I think we change our mind.
It should be it is difficult to pass even you do well your assignment.
The assignment is different from other subjects too.
Lucky the exam date for Human Com. is nect thursday, so I still have time to read it.
Now I just can wish all the best and everything just like I want.
Good luck buddies.

Conflict Resolution

So what are the skills used to support conflict resolution, which also happen to support effective communication?

They are:

Listening

Summarising

Questioning

Listening
The purpose of listening in conflict resolution is not for the listener to get ‘the facts’ but to support the speaker in understanding their own thoughts and feelings about the destructive conflict they are involved in. If you are focused on getting the facts it suggests you are wanting to take some level of control of the situation in order to resolve it for the speaker. You can't resolve another person's destructive conflict, you can only help them to resolve it themselves.

Summarising
An effective summary maximizes the effectiveness of the communication that occurs through a checking with the speaker whether the summary is an accurate statement of what was said. The summary is not a ‘statement of fact’ about what was said, it is an opportunity to clarify with the speaker that the thoughts and feelings and viewpoints they have expressed have been heard accurately. Besides, summarising is not a 'high pressure' activity for the listener as the summary is not going to be 'perfect' the first time it is given and it does not need to be.

Questioning
An open question allows the person to create any one of a number of possible answers that work for them. A closed, leading question means the person can only answer yes or no to the disguised direction they are being given. The closed question approach is what often leads to the idea of ‘empowerment’ being looked upon with some cynicism as it is paternalism trying to pretend it is something else. It still harbours an ‘I know better than you and you should do as I say’ subtext which does not value the individual’s capacity to decide their own path.

Create Positive Communication Climate

The following are strategies for creating climates of positive communication:

• Avoid making assumptions - Avoid drawing conclusions before meeting with an individual or a family based on written information. Read only what you need to ask informed questions.
• Avoid jargon and explain technical terms - Use conversational language with individuals and families, and explain any technical terms. Service coordinators should refer to service agencies by name as opposed to initials, and explain terms such as behavioral intervention, authorizations, etc.
• Share complete and unbiased information - Share results of assessments with people in their entirety, giving individuals and families information with which to make informed choices. Avoid screening information based on personal values.
• Offer suggestions to individuals, but be certain that its clear that the suggestions are not the only options - Share advice with individuals and families, letting them know all other possibilities. Be supportive if they choose another option.
• Don't be afraid to say "I don't know." Be honest with people. Everyone appreciates a service coordinator who will look into the questions and get back to the person or family with the answer.
• Recognize differences in the way people acknowledge and understand information.- Explain information to people using a variety of aids (e.g., drawings, pictures) if necessary. Allow time for processing information, and answering questions.
• Strive for equality - Meet with individuals in a location where they are comfortable. If the meeting is at the regional center office, make the room comfortable for a discussion. Sitting behind a desk will likely convey professional distance.
• Respect cultural differences - Ask the focus person who ought to be invited to meetings. This will likely vary from person to person and family to family.
• Pay attention and respond to nonverbal cues - Be aware of body language of all parties.

My Brother & Sister-in-law

Dearest Brother & Sister-in-law

Today both of you already back to Guangzhou,China to end your holiday. We fail to meet at Kuala Lumpur because you want to celebrate Valentine's Day and we don't have any transport except cab and bus.

We all don't know when can meet maybe September or October. September is Tiffany,your daughter 2nd birthday and 3rd October is your best buddy's wedding day. I think you already try to make a plan to back here again.
You will miss Tiff much even everyday video call and hear her voice. It is not enough to hear her voice only and she is really cute and smart.

Anyway take care at there although you already at there for seven years. Hope everything especially your career will go smooth. Here everything will be good too. I know you're not worry about Tiff cause mummy will take good care of her. You just need to put more effort on you career. Bye.

Replacement Class

This weekend I had two replacement classes. One was on Friday and the other one was on Saturday. Actually this two replacement classes were unique because it had two different time table. First replacement class I was followed the wrong time table and just joined for half an hour. Second class was become better. Admin office there stick the wrong time table. Basically our regular class is one and half hour but my replacement class just one hour. Thus, Admin office there make a mistake and misunderstand. Perhap the replacement classes is during weekend, quite a lot of classmate didn't attend it and for Saturday maybe is Valentine's Day, so the people is busy to create something unique to their bf/gf. Valentine'sDay is nothing special to me cause I'm still single. I know is quite pity celebrate Valentine's Day with Internet but no choice for me. If I'm at my hometown maybe I can hang out with buddies but the problem is I'm at KL and need to study.Anyway next year can have a different Valentine's Day.

Too many works

This semester my friends and I say we are gonna to die because of the works...

Is more than previous semester...More till I have less time to rest...

Everyday we woke up the first thing is check our assignment is already done,the info is sufficient and adequate with the thesis statement.

Yesterday,I just submited my discussion essay draft 2...I'm done it at 7pm something...

The net is suck and damn trouble...Make me can't submit my essay...

Lucky my friend helps me,i send the essay to her through email and she helps me to submit it...

Really thank you of your helping...

After today I'll try to post my blog and make my blog become more and more fresh...

Kelly Chen

I have my CTS Presentation and the topis is choose a famous people that you want to interview and what question you want to ask her.Then I choose her,Kelly Chen,a Hong Kong artist.

Kelly born in Hong Kong in 1972, Kelly grew up with her older sister and younger brother. She went to school at a young age in Rosaryhill School in Hong Kong before her father transferred her to Japan to further her study. Having attended high school at Japan's Canadian Academy, Kelly not only learned a great deal of Japanese, but English as well. After high school, Kelly continued her education in theUnited States at the Parsons School of Design in New York City, specializing in Graphic Design.

She got married at October 2008 with Alex Lau after their 16 years love.When reporter asked how she was finding married life, Kelly smiled that she was getting bored staying at home, so she had to find something to do and make some more money. With many people now referring to her as Mrs Lau, she smiled that she is getting used to it now and finds it quite enjoyable. From her expression, Kelly seemed to be blissfully happy after her wedding. When reporters pointed out that she was not wearing her wedding ring, Kelly explained that she had taken it off because it did not match her outfit. Talking about her valuable diamond ring, Kelly revealed that they had bought the stone four years ago, so it is now worth a lot more than it was then. She smiled that her husband has an eye for investments and that she would never have thought about investing in precious gems.

This small article about Kelly i found from a website.This article is from Hong Kong Parents Federation Chairman Chen Xiaozhu says programs such as the survey have a gradual impact on youngsters and induce them to commit crimes.
Kelly Chen, an actress listed on the survey, says she has no special feelings about the issue and she doesn't believe the participants in the survey would really assault the actresses.
Some even think that those on the list are more popular in general than those that aren't.
It's getting hard for serious media in Hong Kong to make a living. Culture village, a local culture magazine has closed its doors after eight years of losses and Hong Kong Culture has a circulation only in the thousands.